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4 Ways to Love Yourself More (Part 1)


Loving ourselves isn’t about boosting our ego. Instead, loving ourselves ultimately quiets our ego.

Loving ourselves is about recognizing that we are lovable, simply because we have been created in the image of our Creator. With all our unique gifts and abilities. Gifts and abilities that can touch the world if we let loose with the Divine Yes.

Wellness Tip: Do daily Mirror Work.

Notice today’s tip doesn’t exactly suggest, it commands! In fact, I am so convinced that this tip works that I don’t want you to excuse yourself from it! I have been doing Mirror Work for years, and I can testify that it is a life-changing practice. (Read more about the practice of “Mirror Work” from its pioneer, Louise Hay, in her amazing book written with Dr. Robert Holden, Life Loves You.)

The Experiment: Look into the Mirror. Every day. Start with 3 minutes. And say to yourself, as you gaze deeply into your eyes: “I love life, and life loves me.” While looking fully into your eyes, add: “I deeply love and approve of myself.”

At first, you will likely only notice things about yourself to criticize. I’m too fat, too thin, too gray, too wrinkled. Too short, too tall. Out of shape, getting older. Wrong color of hair, eyes, skin. Not enough hair or hair that is too curly or too straight. And, on and on with your self-critic.

You can make changes later, if you so desire. Right now, as you gaze into the mirror, just love yourself, exactly as you are. You have done the best that you could up to this point, and all is well.

I guarantee that if you do this “mirror exercise” daily for one week, you will be hooked. You’ll want to do it every day. You will love yourself more, in all the right ways.

Wellness Tip: Do daily Mirror Work. It works!

Silence Your Inner Critic: Somewhere back in time, we decided that we weren’t that great. We determined that something was wrong with us. That someone else had it better than we did. A better body, mind, job, house, car, spouse, child, parent, etc. And, from then on, we didn’t like ourselves so much.

Likely, these thoughts will arise as you allow yourself to look deeply into your eyes.

Let your thoughts just float past you while you continue to look into the mirror. Say–even if you don’t yet believe it–“I love myself just as I am.” “My body is beautiful.” It may not be exactly what you had in mind. But, it is what you have right now, in this moment, and it is good.

Rock Our World with Your Comments: How has Mirror Work helped you to love yourself more? Write your thoughts in a personal journal, discuss with a friend or family member, or post a comment below or on my Facebook page. We thrive and grow with your input!

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    Thanks you for requiring this. I have slipped in this and I think it’s one of the most health building activities I have ever heard of. Back to the mirror time today!
    If anyone wants a boost in your motivation to stay away from processed foods, there is a new book out called “Swallow This”, “Serving up the food Industries darkest secrets.”
    It shocked me even though I thought I was an aware consumer.
    I like the 3/4 plate idea as it helps me realize just how much veggies I really need. Helps to fill that part of the plate first too.
    Look forward to getting your blogs Patty. Thanks for doing this for us.


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      Patty Bilhartz


      Thanks so much for sharing. We learn so much from each other.


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