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4 Ways to Love Yourself More (Part 3)


This is the 3rd tip in a 4-part series that will assist you in loving your beautiful self even more.

It’s time to forgive yourself. For everything. The big things and the little things. The untold secrets. The quiet lies. Forgive it all.

Wellness Tip #3: Forgive Yourself.

Sounds simple. But it’s not.

In fact, many of us can accept forgiveness from our Creator but not from ourselves.

The problem is that we don’t love ourselves enough to forgive ourselves.

We have been so repeatedly hurt by others and life’s circumstances that we have given up on loving ourselves and have made ourselves the victim.

If he or she wouldn’t have done this to me, then…. If I had more money, more time, more things, better relationships, then….

Do you notice the pattern here? It’s hard to take responsibility for our actions. It’s often easier to blame someone else or fault our circumstances.

But, there is a better way.

It’s truly possible–at any age–to begin to love ourselves more. To set ourselves free from victimhood. To accept responsibility for our past errors and forgive ourselves. To use the wisdom we learned to become move loving. To love ourselves so much that our self-love can become the catalyst for more love and service in this world.

The Experiment: Set the intention that you are worth loving, and forgiving.

Here are several affirmations that I have found to be helpful in the forgiveness process:

“I love and appreciate myself, just as I am. I am willing to forgive myself. I am ready to lovingly change and let go of anything that no longer serves my best interests or those of others.”

After speaking these affirmations, I sit very quietly with my thoughts. Where do I find it hard to forgive myself? In what areas can I love myself more?

As answers surface, I imagine any thoughts of self-criticism being released, just as a balloon floats into the sky on a gently windy day. I allow love to gently replace habits of unforgiveness. And then, I find something beautiful in my life to praise.

This can be a transformational practice if you do it daily. Over time, the new-found love and exquisite grace that you will experience for yourself and for others will bless the world.

Wellness Tip: Try forgiving yourself. It will transform your life!

Silence Your Inner Critic: You think that you simply can’t forgive yourself for everything. For not being what you think you ought to be. For not being more like your friends or coworkers. For not being more physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually perfect. But, it is possible to lighten your load and start the forgiveness process. For yourself and others. One step at a time.

Rock Our World with Your Comments: What emotions did you experience as you began to forgive? Write your thoughts in a personal journal, discuss with a friend or family member, or post a comment below or on our Facebook page. We thrive and grow with your input!

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