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Vegas and My Lost Wedding Ring

I lost my wedding ring about 2 weeks ago. Never mind that I hadn’t taken it off my finger since our wedding over 15 months ago…until then.

When I realized it wasn’t on my finger, I wanted to say that losing it really wasn’t my fault.

I wanted to make all kinds of excuses, blame others, and feel sorry for myself. After all, losing a wedding ring is a big deal…or is it?

*If I didn’t have a serious illness of multiple sclerosis, then I wouldn’t have needed any imaging, and thus I wouldn’t have taken off my wedding ring. (I’ve got enough to deal with without this happening!)

*If I hadn’t been so tired after undergoing 4 procedures in one day (3 in the morning and one in the afternoon for a closer look), I wouldn’t have forgotten to get my ring out of my locker and put it on my finger before I left the imaging center. (I can only do so much in a day!)

*If I had been able to return to the imaging center that day before it closed, perhaps it would have still been there. (Probably someone took it!)

I did allow myself a brief pity party, and then I moved on, both in my head and with my actions. Here’s what helped me:

1. Prayer: I prayed, asking God to help me to find the ring, but if I didn’t, to forgive myself, learn from it, and use my loss for good.

2. Gratitude: I thanked God that I had a wedding ring. Whether or not the ring was lost or found, it represented an ongoing Big Love between my husband and me that is priceless, and we are forever grateful that we are together.

3. Persistence: Over the next week, I returned to the center several times, hoping that someone might have found it. I scoured the center’s parking lot, my car, my purse, and my home. Ultimately, all to no avail, but I gave it my best shot.

4. Acceptance: I released my lost ring: “It is what it is.” I made the conscious and honest choice not to blame my disease, my fatigue, the imaging center or others. I decided to lovingly claim full responsibility for my loss, knowing that I had done the best that I could under the circumstances. Loving myself as God loves me.

5. Reframing: I closed the gap between heaven and earth. How? I looked at the situation with new eyes and a bigger perspective. Why not have fun with even this circumstance? After all, my husband had an upcoming business trip to Las Vegas, and I was planning to join him over the weekend. Perhaps we could book a wedding chapel and renew our vows, along with a new wedding ring.

Fortunately, our original rings were simple, inexpensive titanium rings, and we were able to get a reasonably priced replacement easily.

We’ve booked the Vegas chapel. We’re headed there next week.

Fun or fury,

Forgiveness or resentment,

Responsibility or blame,

Joy or sadness,

Victor or victim.

My decision, with God’s help. And, this time I chose the Higher Way.

Perhaps the road less traveled. Where heaven meets earth.

That’s our challenge as God-infused beings on this earth.

And, with God, that makes all the difference.

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.”

Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

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    Ellen

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    Patty,
    So sorry about the imaging and the ring. And much happier to think about how amazing and interesting human anatomy and medical equipment is. And developers who dreamed up Vegas. And the miracle of hope grace strength for the moment peace joy and love. Have fun!

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      Patty Bilhartz

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      Yes, I agree. Life is all about a gratitude perspective! Thanks for your beautiful friendship, and have a great day!

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    Shana

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    We can all identify with losing something important to us. I usually hope I have put it in a safe place! We all know exactly how devastating it can feel to know it is gone and there is nothing we can do about it! Good for you that you moved on in such a creative way! Just don’t get Elvis to marry you. LOL. That is actually an option there in Vegas. It seems when I was a teenager I lost things and now for about 10 years I have been on that roller coaster again – where I spend more time looking for something than I should. I am trying to give everything I keep a home so I will know where it is. But that requires putting it back after I use it. LOL. The solution for the keys is solved if you have a big wooden slab and hooks on. My keys don’t get lost if I put them there right when I enter the house. Have a great and fun trip!

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    Vicki Bailey

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    You are always uplifting and you are in my prayers !

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      Patty Bilhartz

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      Thanks, Vicki. Please give everyone my fondest wishes. Prayers abound for you and your family as well!

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    Ray Truesdell

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    Patty: Thank you for honestly sharing a struggle and the victory you received in Christ. In Christ you are the victor.

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      Patty Bilhartz

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      Thanks, Ray, for your comments! Thanks be to God for victory in our Lord!

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    Betty

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    What a day brighter! You had me smiling by the end although I am sorry you lost your weddding ring. But what a wonderful way to handle it (after doing everything you could to get it back). Hope y’all have a wonderful time in Vegas!
    Now I know you’ve accepted your ring is gone but you never know God may get it back to you. The main thing is that you’ve accepted the loss and moved on with Gods grace!
    I’m praying for your healing. Love you😘

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      Patty Bilhartz

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      Thanks for your kind words! Hope all of you are doing well and having a great winter in Texas! Love to you!

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    Christine Abraham

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    Love your blog post and a great example of how we transition when we take our thoughts captive to Christ. I learned so much from your book, I hope you’re writing another one and mentoring people through a life with Christ.

    When Jim and I were ring shopping before we married, I passed out at the store. Not from the size of the rock LOL but from the anxiety of making a longterm commitment. We had my great-grandmothers diamonds put into my wedding band…and then the ring was stolen from the delivery truck. The store created another ring, we added more diamonds from my family stock 😬 I love the perseverance of the lost and stolen ring… a reminder that marriage too, is about perseverance and strength ❤️

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      Patty Bilhartz

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      What a story! Thanks for sharing with all of us. Have a blessed day, and we hope to see you soon!

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